The latest Tweets from Alec Greven (@AlecGreven). I have a peanut allergy and peaked when I was 8. Castle Rock, CO. Alec Greven, 9, is a fourth grader from Castle Rock, Colorado. Alec Greven wrote a book called,”How To Talk To Girls.” Alec Greven impressed Ellen DeGeneres. How to Talk to Girls has ratings and 92 reviews. Manny said: I bought it on impulse at Borders, and read it while waiting for my spaghetti to boil. I.
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How to Talk to Grevfn is a self-help book written by nine-year-old Alec Greven. Actually, he was eight when he wrote the book, which I heard about on a women’s online forum I frequent. The women had been discussing pick-up artist books recently, and then someone came alecc Greven’s book, and a debate ensued: Is this little boy a misogynist in the making, or is he just a clever kid?
The pick-up artist books in question are ones by green who aren’t just giving innocent dating advice but encouraging their readers to look for the weaknesses in the women they meet and exploit those weaknesses for their own mostly sexual gratification.
In extreme cases, these men are emotionally abusive in addition to being generally despicable people.
They knowingly manipulate others with no concern for the damage they may do. When some of my forum friends started to compare Greven to these men, I saw their concern, but I couldn’t come to quite the same conclusion.
I have a hard time viewing any child as a misogynist, but obviously, children’s attitudes about gender alev what adults teach them.
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So, what does Greven say about women? Well, it’s worth noting that some of his advice is really good. He makes a few simple suggestions that men of all ages could benefit from: But Greven does make some statements that make me wonder if children his age have healthy alev about gender.
For example, Grevan writes: If that’s the case, he’s not the only one who finds high-maintenance people annoying.
They truly are like cars that require a lot of oil. They can drain your time, energy and money, and I don’t blame Greven for advising the boys in his class to avoid that type of girl. These statements are flawed, however, in several ways.
First, he equates “pretty” with jewelry, clothes and all the trappings of fashion magazines. Those things are nice, but they don’t make a girl pretty, and we spend a lot of time trying to teach young girls that “pretty” isn’t all about having the nicest things and wearing the most makeup.
And anyway, a girl who likes jewelry and fancy clothes isn’t necessarily high-maintenance or dislikable in any other way. Second, Greven seems to think that pretty girls are more likely to be mean, or at least unappreciative of boys’ attention. It’s almost as though being pretty is a bad thing.
Later in their lives, both in school and beyond, girls and women who are too attractive, too friendly or too well liked by their male peers can end up with the nastiest labels, which are never deserved and are always hurtful. Someone should have explained to Greven that there is a big difference between being pretty and being cold-hearted, unfriendly or unapproachable. Third, Greven also suggests that for most boys, the best choice is a “regular girl”.
What does he mean by that?
Though Greven acknowledges aec his observations came from his own school, this kind of subtle and sometimes not very subtle sexism is present in schools throughout the country.
This isn’t an attack on Alec Greven. His attitudes probably come from a variety of sources. He sees them grreven out on television, perhaps in his parents’ relationships and, according to his own statements, all over his school.
He’s an observant boy just calling it like he sees it, but in some areas, I wish we could teach him to see it differently. The fact that his attitudes are common does not make them healthy. Still, Greven’s idea of a pretty girl is misguided, but it’s far from the ugly manipulations of pick-up artists. It wouldn’t do any good to attack the young author. Maybe in his next book, his parents, teachers and editors will give him some stronger guidance.
Alec Greven (Author of How to Talk to Girls)
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